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Hello.
here's my answer to the first question...
Here's a question: What is the biggest misconception people have about you? (I like to ask people that one...)
Hm, that's a tough question. I think as far as being a person, people think that I love to do girly things and that I love affection. These things are not all together true. I like scrapbooking, yes, but I also love biking and basketball and "Halo2". Also, I hate hugs most of the time. It's so awkward! I think people also think that because i'm small, i'm not strong, but I am. As far as being a pastor, I think people think I never struggle and that I'm always super "spiritual." it's not true. I stuggle with the very existance of God sometimes! But that's not to say i'm not continuing to work through my faith and encouraging others to pursue a relationship with God as well. I struggle just like anyone else. But the difference is that I work out my struggles quicker perhaps because I have to.
The second question... What's marriage actually like, from a younger person's point of view like yourself?
well, that's a great question. I feel honored that you would think to ask me... marriage is what you make it to be. I will be honest... it's tough sometimes. You've got to die to self and put the other person before yourself and that's tough. There are a lot of misconceptions of marriage that TV and movies portray. You stay in love as long as you choose to. It's not about feelings, although those come and go at times. It's about the choice to love your spouse and to live life with them. It's nice to have someone to do stuff with and cook with and share funny, sad, happy, exhilerating moments. But there are times when you just want to go to sleep, and your spouse... well... doesn't. So you put your spouse's needs before your own and vice versa. It's fun to plan a family and think about buying a house... going on vacations... if you want to just get away you always have someone to go with. Paul is really funny and i just laugh at him lots of times. It's nice to have someone tell you you're beautiful, and mean it, cause they truely know you.
Marriage is hard work cuz' you're with that person a lot. And you really do become "one." so your decisions need to reflect both of you and that takes compromise and finding common ground sometimes. There are times i wonder "what would it be like to be single?" (only cuz' i'm an independant person and i like to do stuff on my own... paul loves to be around people). But most times i think "i wouldn't have it any other way."
there's something very important that i've learned in my short marriage of 1 year and 8 months... mind games are dumb cuz' they don't get you anywhere. Don't sweat the small stuff cuz' it's not worth it. and... finally... don't let the other person's mood ruin your day. if you stay positive chances are that will rub off on them and they'll feel comforted by your joy and contentment.
Is that what you were getting at? i think marriage is the same for young and old... just in different stages of planning... toghether :)
here's my answer to the first question...
Here's a question: What is the biggest misconception people have about you? (I like to ask people that one...)
Hm, that's a tough question. I think as far as being a person, people think that I love to do girly things and that I love affection. These things are not all together true. I like scrapbooking, yes, but I also love biking and basketball and "Halo2". Also, I hate hugs most of the time. It's so awkward! I think people also think that because i'm small, i'm not strong, but I am. As far as being a pastor, I think people think I never struggle and that I'm always super "spiritual." it's not true. I stuggle with the very existance of God sometimes! But that's not to say i'm not continuing to work through my faith and encouraging others to pursue a relationship with God as well. I struggle just like anyone else. But the difference is that I work out my struggles quicker perhaps because I have to.
The second question... What's marriage actually like, from a younger person's point of view like yourself?
well, that's a great question. I feel honored that you would think to ask me... marriage is what you make it to be. I will be honest... it's tough sometimes. You've got to die to self and put the other person before yourself and that's tough. There are a lot of misconceptions of marriage that TV and movies portray. You stay in love as long as you choose to. It's not about feelings, although those come and go at times. It's about the choice to love your spouse and to live life with them. It's nice to have someone to do stuff with and cook with and share funny, sad, happy, exhilerating moments. But there are times when you just want to go to sleep, and your spouse... well... doesn't. So you put your spouse's needs before your own and vice versa. It's fun to plan a family and think about buying a house... going on vacations... if you want to just get away you always have someone to go with. Paul is really funny and i just laugh at him lots of times. It's nice to have someone tell you you're beautiful, and mean it, cause they truely know you.
Marriage is hard work cuz' you're with that person a lot. And you really do become "one." so your decisions need to reflect both of you and that takes compromise and finding common ground sometimes. There are times i wonder "what would it be like to be single?" (only cuz' i'm an independant person and i like to do stuff on my own... paul loves to be around people). But most times i think "i wouldn't have it any other way."
there's something very important that i've learned in my short marriage of 1 year and 8 months... mind games are dumb cuz' they don't get you anywhere. Don't sweat the small stuff cuz' it's not worth it. and... finally... don't let the other person's mood ruin your day. if you stay positive chances are that will rub off on them and they'll feel comforted by your joy and contentment.
Is that what you were getting at? i think marriage is the same for young and old... just in different stages of planning... toghether :)
posted by Little Worshiper @ 10:34 AM
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